Considered the “parenting Bible” for decades, Adele Faber’s book introduced a host of soon-to-be-standard parenting concepts, such as acknowledging kids’ feelings and avoiding punishment in favor of empathy.

A lot of parenting ends up as a game of covert psychological and emotional manipulation, trying to get kids to do what we want through a mixture of punishments and rewards. Alfie Kohn urged his readers to instead work with their kids, figuring out what they need and how to meet those needs.

Such level-headed parenting advice was blithely disregarded by “Tiger Mom” Amy Chua, who assured anxious Americans that the US could once more compete with China if they only spent more time insulting their kids and forcing them to play piano until they started gnawing on the keys. Nine out of ten sociopaths agree: it works!